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Dark circles Under Infant eyes
Anonymous posted in Parenting
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Dark Circles under the eyes in infants could either be a familial tendency that runs in the family a... more

Dark Circles under the eyes in infants could either be a familial tendency that runs in the family and the only other common cause that we come across is lack of sleep. And if you're baby is sleeping really well, then please make sure you check his iron stores and hemoglobin, cause anemia can lead to dark circles under the eyes along with pallor in the nails and in the eye itself. Get him to your pediatrician so his iron levels and hemoglobin can be checked and if his sleep is normal there is nothing to worry about. Follow me on Instagram for more information & tips. @dr.arif.khan less

Dr. Arif Khan Consultant Pediatric Neurologist
6 days ago
How to teach our kids to Say please and thank you “naturally”?
Anonymous posted in Parenting
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1. Model the behavior yourself and emphasize the please and thank you. This is especially impor... more

1. Model the behavior yourself and emphasize the please and thank you. This is especially important for younger children as they really do mimic and copy our behavior.
2. Repetition and reminding them- it may seem unnatural and maybe taxing at first but stick with it - the younger you start the better as well. As with most communications, it’s not what you say but how you say it. Make the reminder/ correction as natural as possible. It can be as simple as after they ask for something you say please and then they repeat it and eventually they will adopt it. From my personal experience with my daughter and older stepchildren it may seem that your efforts don’t make a difference but all of sudden it will click.
3. Incentivize the use of the words - the concept of being polite especially to younger children can be hard to understand. Why do they need to use a fork for example when their hands work better or easier?  The same is said for using please and thank you- does it make a difference beyond being polite-  to them, it may not. To support that it is something that they need to say you can make a please and thank chart where if they say please and thank you so many times a week they have a special prize or extra dessert or more iPad time. You can also do a ladder system where with every please and thank you they are getting closer to a larger prize- maybe a dinner out or a day at a park etc...
Once the behavior is adopted you will not need to continue with it- this system is useful for other manners as well- table manners in particular.
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Taylor Perramond Elegance Advisor
2 weeks ago
How to let the child follow rules?
Anonymous posted in Parenting
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1. Consistency is key: F... more

1. Consistency is key: Firstly, it's important to note that many children will push boundaries & test the limits in their environment. That’s just their human nature. However, despite this truth, it's imperative that parents strive for consistency when it comes to disciplining their kids. Children need boundaries, the more boundaries there are in the home, the more safe & secure your child will feel.
2. Values-based parenting: instead of focusing on the rules, rather anchor the boundaries in your family's values. For example: Instead of saying to your child "You're grounded...because I said so!" rather say the following: "You're grounded because you wouldn't share your toy with your cousin and in our home, we value "generosity". By not sharing, you went against one of our core values. This way, the child understands why they are being grounded & they simultaneously learn about the value of generosity too. 
3. Create a Value Wheel: Brainstorm what your top 10 values are & create a colorful wheel with the different values in each spoke (e.g. generosity, kindness, respect, honesty, gratitude, health, courage, flexibility, integrity & trust).  Allow your kids to be a part of this creation so that they are well informed what your values are in the home, rather than trying to enforce "rules" in the home. Every time your child oversteps a boundary or misbehaves, you can point to the value wheel & explain why they will be grounded.
4. Walk your talk: Put these values into action by modeling them to your kids. Point it out when your kids carry out a values-driven action too (e.g. "I am proud of you for having the 'courage to try out a new extra-mural activity at school").
5. Call a time-in: instead of sending your kid to time-out or "the naughty corner", rather send them to the "thinking corner" or to their rooms to go take some time-in & reflect on their behavior (e.g. "Go think about what caused you to pull your brother's hair, how you felt before you did that & what you could have done differently. When you are done thinking about it, let's problem-solve together too."). This way you start building your child's self-awareness muscle, which is one of the pillars of Emotional Intelligence.
- Christine Kritzas (Counselling Psychologist & Education Director at The LightHouse Arabia)
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