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Toddler stubborn attitude & tantrums
hanane fariji posted in Parenting
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It is important to first learn that temper tantrums are a typical phase of toddlers' development hence the infamous “terrible twos”. Temper tantrums usually peak in the 24 -36 months of age .

There are 3 factors beneath the surface:

  1. At this age children’s separation anxiety peaks and they become aware that they are differentiated and separate from their parents. Toddlers feel overwhelmed and a variety of emotions and tension starts simmering under the surface.

  2. Children’s communication is still developing. Tantrums are their way of expressing their feelings where they don't have enough words to express them.

  3. Toddlers operate from their downstairs brain while their upstairs brain is still developing. This part of the brain is not capable of skills such as reasoning, logical thinking, understanding consequences, and emotional regulation.

Strategies to support you through this phase:

  1. Welcome their feelings but limit the behaviors. When your child is in the middle of the tantrum, they are offline. Let them go through it while trying to contain the behavior by moving away whenever possible to safer, less corded, and calmer spots at home or in public.

  2. Spend more time engaging in brain friendly  toddler activities together (sensory play, active outdoor play). This can support their emotional regulation as their brain is developing.

  3. Replace reasoning and giving directions with simply labeling what you see. Help them co-regulate by saying out loud what you're seeing and labeling things for them instead of logical reasoning with them  and wait for the storm to pass. (e.g., “ I see that you want to get your toy and it’s making you upset that it’s not here”).

  4. Prepare. Reflect on places, items, or needs that frequently trigger their tantrums and work around them whenever possible.

  5. Children thrive in routine. Establish a predictable routine for their needs and activities. Attending nursery can add more structure to their day.

  6. Take care of yourself. This is an overwhelming experience for both you and your toddlers. Your feelings of anger, helplessness, or frustration are valid. Practice self-regulating techniques during the tantrum (e.g., belly breathing, recall what is in your control and what isn't).

When to seek professional help?

With all the above in mind, if tantrums become more frequent, intense, last longer, cause them harm or injury,  you find yourself losing control or struggling with frequent feelings of anger or loss of control consider consulting with an early childhood specialists such as child and parenting psychologists, pediatric occupational therapist, or speech and language therapists if there are communication difficulties.

Please let us know if you have any further questions.

Speech & Language Therapist, Dalia Alzyod at The Lighthouse Center

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The Lighthouse Center mental health and wellness clinic
2 months ago
Meal plan for kids
Anonymous posted in Parenting
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Feeding your children should not be complicated. To simplify it, keep in mind these strategies and n... more

Feeding your children should not be complicated. To simplify it, keep in mind these strategies and next I will give you a meal plan example for a one year old:

  • A meal plan should include the 5 food groups (fruits-vegetables- meat and/or legumes- grains and dairy products
  • The division of these meals should go with the family’s lifestyle. If you feel that your family does not have varied balanced healthy meals, or does not have fixed time for eating, and that there is no meal planning, then now it’s the right time to start fixing that!
All the efforts one usually put to raise a healthy kid will go lost, if the example we set in front of our kids is not healthy. Kids learn by role modeling.
  • Specify time and place of eating at every meal (breakfast /kitchen/lunch dinning table/ dinner kitchen/snacks ) try to stick to a schedule with very mild and rare changes. Children like routines. They feel secure. You will also avoid crankiness from your child while eating.
  • Divide the main meals of the week to include (beans/vegetable stew/ fish/chicken/meat). It is ok if your child eats same meal for 2 days if needed.
  • Try to share at least 1 meal per day with your child especially when introducing new recipe or new food to show support.
  • When planning the whole weeks menu, take into consideration to introduce new food gradually not all in same week. Keep in mind that your child sometimes needs to taste a food up to 20 time to start liking it.
  • Using traditional food that your family usually cooks and share at home is better then choosing recipes from a baby cookbook that you will need to do specially for your child and which will not fit in your or his/her lifestyle later on in life. Children should learn how to eat family shared meals if they don’t have any health/ medical problems.
Keeping all these tips in mind, now planning a day for your child should be easy. Remember as parents our role is to provide space, time, and the variety of food. Your child should decide the portion size. On some days you will feel your child has a bigger appetite than other days. It’s Ok! Your child should learn how to listen to his hunger and fullness cues.  As parents obliging a child to finish a plate that we find fit will ruin his intuitive eating. Here is an example to a one-year-old. 7:00 AM: 1 cup milk 9:00 Breakfast: egg sandwich 11:00 Snack:  ½ cup fresh fruits 1:00 Lunch: spinach stew with meat and boiled rice 3:00 Snack:  ½ cup Greek yogurt +1/2 cup fresh fruits 5:00 Dinner:   hummus wrap or cheese wrap +1/2 cup vegetable sticks or ½ cup vegetable soup 7:00 PM: 1 cup milk less

Rouba El Asmar Registered Dietitian Nutritionist
3 months ago
How to get back to breastfeeding?
Anonymous posted in Pregnancy
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Hello, I would to start by shedding some light on the importance of early breastfeeding education th... more

Hello, I would to start by shedding some light on the importance of early breastfeeding education that really helps every mom understand what she might go through and help her overcome any problem, like the one you went through. Concerning your challenge, it is important to first assess the ability of the mammary and thyroid gland to produce breast milk again, especially after a long time without any kind of stimulation and activity. I can assure you that there are several ways to try and re-lactate, however, we can’t know the results from now. I recommend you to book a consultation so that we can talk details, tackle each issue on its own, and set up a proper plan. less

Lara Abi Jaoude Midwife & Lactation Consultant
3 months ago
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